Signs of troubles for couples

All’s fair in love and war.  What does that saying really mean?Are they presuming that the two are very similar?Now it isn’t for sure that that is what they were trying to say, but there sure are a lot of things that are the same.

The things that are the same I guess are when the two turns from love into war.  It may still be love between the two but they are at each other like it is war.  I have seen this first hand doing couples therapy San Diego.A couple that used to be in love now is a couple in a constant fight.It is my objective to help bring peace between the two people.  And restore that once great relationship.

So what are the signs of trouble?One of the huge signs to look out for is a lack of communication.Or should I put it this way, no communication.  For any relationship, communication is key.Since it is so important, if in your relationship you start to see that you are not being able to communicate it is a sign.it is a sign trying to let you know trouble is starting.  Whether I am doing couples counseling or  marriage counseling in San Diego I see it all the time.Because if you are not able to communicate effectively, any small thing can turn into a huge problem.Being able to communicate effectively helps to prevent that.

So as a family counselor San Diego one of the biggest things I do is try to teach the couple how to communicate.One of the keys to unlocking the ability to communicate is the ability to listen.A lot of people when they think of being able to communicate they think it refers to talking.  But really if you don’t listen well, you don’t really understand each other.So by assisting the couple to learn how to listen better, it will greatly improve their communications.

By being able to spot this sign, a couple will be able to better know that trouble may be starting.Now if the couple can spot this problem early in their relationship, they might be able to avoid some serious problems. From what I have witnessed, the optimum way to solve some problems is to completely avoid them.  But if not recognized early, best way to solve them is to learn how to communicate.Sounds basic but what it can do is have a major role in the problem.